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Muslim Female Misogyny


By Ali Eteraz
Posted on Fri Jan 26, 2007 at 04:16:36 PM EST
Tags: misogyny, reflections (all tags)

It's just everywhere I go and meet young American Muslim women, I find that the thing they are most obsessive about isn't their own looks, shortcomings, or how boring they are (hey, pharmacy isn't exciting ok?). It's how quick they are to point to some random brother in the community, or whom they've come across at a party, and conclude -- yes, with finality and authority -- "that he must be gay."

Maybe it's just that people like to confide in me that I hear this stuff. Or maybe its the fact that girls think I must know the guy they are crushing on (since I magically know everyone) and can give them some kind of insight. Whatever the reason, it's getting kind of pathetic to hear women insulting random dudes for being "gay" when they don't know jack about the guy (aside from the fact that he won't pay attention to them).

First of all, when a girl concludes "he is gay" and then looks to me, what exactly am I supposed to say? I am not going to blow up the guy's spot if he's a player, nor am I going to tell her that she needs to aim a little lower looks wise, and I'm certainly not going to actually know if the guy is gay or not.

Second, I think Muslim sisters need the same lesson that some good hearted uncle once gave us boys at a post football game pizza: "If a member of the opposite sex rebuffs you, or doesn't pay attention to you, she isn't a b*tch, or a lesbian."

Misogynist sisters, recognize. Resentment and prejudice isn't just a man thing. Maybe its the fact that you don't have any class or cultivation that makes guys not like you, hmm, hmm?

Nah, whatever, "AE must be gay, too." 

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Tags: misogyny, reflections (all tags)
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The answer(none / 0) (#1)
by Irving on Fri Jan 26, 2007 at 08:41:43 PM EST

When women say "He must be gay!"  turn to your male friends and say:

"Lesbian our way."

 

haha





yes but ...(none / 0) (#2)
by alianamirza on Fri Jan 26, 2007 at 09:56:38 PM EST
From my observation, I would say that it is usually the 'sisters' who can't get things going with the 'brother' in question. My observation could of course be based on a biased sample. Anyway I agree that (some) Muslims women can be as bad as (some) men Muslim when labeling people.



I wonder...(none / 0) (#3)
by Maleeha on Fri Jan 26, 2007 at 10:41:40 PM EST
...if you expressed these thoughts to your female buddy and what her reaction was if you did so.

Yes, Maleeha!(none / 0) (#4)
by humeirah on Sun Jan 28, 2007 at 12:49:27 AM EST
Exactly Maleeha...It would do the world so much good if only people actually criticized others openly than behind their backs.

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You mean misandry(none / 0) (#5)
by Yusuf Smith on Sun Jan 28, 2007 at 03:26:15 AM EST
What you are talking about is not misogyny, which is hostility to women (the gyn part as in gynaecology).  Hostility to men is misandry.




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